How Has Divorce Blessed YOUR Life?
Guest post from cheryl. That is my question to everyone out there that has experienced divorce, have had parents divorce, siblings divorce, or children divorce. (oh, throw in any other relationship, too if you want). Why am I curious? Because I have yet to find someone that has LOVED their experience with divorce. My in-laws divorced about 2 1/2 years before I came into the picture. DH was serving a mission at the time, and as any child "of divorce" can attest, it was very, very hard for him --and his younger siblings. But he has endured it well. As well as you can in the wake of your eternal family being broken apart. Now, I wouldn't say that things are ALL bad. His mother is re-married and very, very happy. We have a wonderful relationship with her, all-be-it a hard one at times since she is no longer a member of the Church. But there is love and there is hope and there is respect on all sides. This is a good, good thing. His father, working on wife #4 is VERY active in the Church. Yet our relationship is extremely strained. Not just because of past wrongs, or that he lives near us, or that he is manipulative/hypocritical/selfish (I'm sure everyone knows someone like this), but also because we're not sure if Wife #4 will be around in 5 years. It's hard to get close to her --will she be like the rest? Now amongst all this, our children are blessed. They have 3 sets of grandparents that love them very much. They weren't around for the first 6 years of the "adjustment" period. But, as little #1 asks us questions like, "Who is daddy's mom?" we know that all the ugliness will one day be explained. Hopefully not for a long, long, long time. Anyways, that is a glimpse into the life we deal with -- some of the "blessings" of divorce. Now I'm not saying they shouldn't have divorced. They have their reasons and they may be good ones to them --and some of you may have great reasons as to why divorce is in your life. ABUSE for one! But I know that amongst the tiniest good that has come from this particular divorce, mountains and mountains of pain have been raised very high. So, how has divorce blessed your life? --cheryl---