1/30/2006

My Contribution to the World

In one of my college English classes, my teacher told us to "write about our dogs", meaning the things we know closely. So here is my dog. Fair warning: If you are squeamish, just skip this post. PG language (Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, and I don't even play one on TV- if you are having extreme sickness, see your doctor.) Morning Sickness. If there was ever an expert on such a wretched subject, it is me, and I may as well contribute something for the crown I hold. There are others out there who have shared about this too, (check out Allison at Don't Let's Start), but I have to find some pearl in the oyster, so here is mine. 1. There are as many different degrees, or ways of feeling ill, as there are levels of hell in Dante's imagination. Most women have some feeling of nausea during the early months of pregnancy, but for others, like myself, the nausea transcends 'feeling ill' and the vomiting continues for all nine months, and even through labor and delivery. If you are blessed not to be like me, don't tell me about how easy and wonderful and problem free your pregnancies were. That is like eating a Crispy Creme in front of a starving woman, and I might push you through a window. 2. My Relief Society president, mother of five boys, told me it was all in my head. NEVER ever do this! Not only does it belittle the experience of the woman in misery, it basically calls me weak and accuses me of trying to get attention through vomit. 3. There is such a thing as real, drastic, morning sickness. It has a medical name, but I am not a doctor, and I can't remember it. With all three of my babies, I weigh less at delivery than I did when I got pregnant. This type of sickness is NOT imagined or something that can be cured with soda crackers. It requires an IV to keep from becoming so dehydrated as to be a danger to the baby. 4. There are drugs out there to help, but most of them are pretty ineffective, save one, and it is so expensive most insurance companies won't cover it. The others make you so sleepy that it is dangerous to take them if you already have small kids at home. 5. There are endless folk-tales and home-remedies for morning sickness, and some of them may work if you are a little bit queasy. I have tried them all, and 99% of them can be thrown out with the bathwater. If one more person asks me if I have tried Preggie Pops or ginger I will scream. ( Yes. Yes, no it does nothing for me, and it burns your nose when it comes back up- same with peppermint, chamomile and Coca Cola) 6. The one folk-tale that has helped me is: To keep from gagging and vomiting when changing your already-here baby's diaper, pack your nose with Vicks. This works in the nasty, smelly grocery store too, by the way. (p.s. An RN just said NOT to do this, so this one is out too!~) 7. 'Morning Sickness" is a lie- it is twenty-four hours a day. Evenings are often worse for many women than mornings. 8. Throwing up does NOT make it better. Many people, out of ignorance, think that once you vomit, you will feel better. Maybe with the flu, but that does nothing for pregnancy induced vomiting- the nausea is still there, and in fact, is often worse if your stomach is empty. 9. Use a bowl or a bucket to be sick in. Forget the toilet, and all the smells associated with it- get yourself a good plastic bucket or big bowl, and use that instead. Heaving at counter-height is much more comfortable and things come up easier. Then, dump the bowl in the toilet and rinse it out. Much better in the long run. 10. Keep a gallon-size zipper top bag in your purse, with three or four paper towels crumpled up inside- the towels hamper splatter and disguise the contents. Zipper top makes it safe until you find a trash can. This will save you in public situations where you cannot reach a bathroom, and public bathrooms are horrid anyway. If you have to use a public restroom, use the sink. You don't want public toilet water splattering up on you. 11. Carry a towel, a change of clothes and underwear. No details really necessary here, but almost all women who are still vomiting later in their pregnancy have pressure-release problems. Be prepared. 12. Soft, cold things, like ice-cream and smoothies, Jamba juice, and the like are generally bad news, even though they sound good and often taste good. That much liquid in your tummy doesn't translate well. And throwing up something still cold is just too creepy. 13. Eating food without a lot of liquid can make it more likely to stay down, but if you know barfing is imminent, drink something quickly. It is much easier on your body and less painful to vomit soft things than dryer food. 14. When you have an empty stomach but are still heaving, the stuff that comes up looks like orange juice. It is bile, from your galbladder. You are not dying, even though it might feel like it. 15. In later pregnancy, you can, in fact, break your water by throwing up. I have done it, and I don't recommend it. Again, the pressure-release problems and lack of space in your abdomen. 16. Small capilaries on your eyes, face and nose can break if you are having a really hard time of it. This does not happen to women who are 'imagining' it, or women who 'it's all in their heads'. 17. Go to the dentist if you are having a pregnancy like mine. The enamel on your teeth is in serious jeopardy from all the acid, and he can give you a special toothpaste to help. 18. Dishes can be a really, really bad thing when your stomach is so tender and smells are so vile. Invest in the Costco size pack of paper plates and utensils. So what can you do to help, if you know someone like me? Well, unless you have a magic-time-speeder-upper wand, not much. Try and be kind, don't tell me it's all in my head, or how easy your pregnancies were. When you have been throwing up 3-7 times a day for 30+ weeks, hearing things like that only compound the misery. Offer to take my kids for a few hours- that would be awesome. The friends that have helped me the most are the ones who call and say "I have time on Tuesday at 10 am, let me come by and pick them up until after lunch." That is just the best- the hardest (although I know they are trying to be kind) are the folks who call up and want to chat and hear all about how I am, then put the onus on me to decide what they should do. Trust me, I always feel like crap, and I am starting to hate it when people ask. They give the little head-tilt, and inevitably say "oooooh? Still?" Yes, dammit, still. And I can't tell you how many calls I have had to drop the phone and run to my bowl. Humiliation. If you want to bring something by for my starving family to eat, that is really nice. They don't get a lot of home-cookin' these days, and my DH especially would appreciate it. However, do skip the broccoli casserole, the BBQ pork sandwiches, or the corned beef and cabbage, please. While it's rude of me to look a gift horse in the mouth, food with strong smells is why I don't spend any time in the kitchen in the first place. And completely innocuous smells to the average bear, are unbearable to me. I end up in tears in the bathroom with the fan on, crouched over my bowl, and my DH has to dump the food in the outside garbage can. What will work for your friend might not be the same as works for me, but avoiding cooked broccoli is a good place to start. Feel free to add anything I may have missed. My brain is not firing on all cylinders these days. T-minus 10 weeks and counting....

54 Comments:

Blogger nestle said...

Another person who has shared my misery!!! I love you for verbalizing it soo well. I had pitikia (I have no idea how to spell it) the last 2 months of my pregnancy. This means don't even think of going out in public because you have pin size red spots on EVERY single pore in your face.

To compound the absolute terror of the situation. Every woman who is pregnant usually has one thing that is worse than anything else in smell. At any other period in time I would love certain smells. But when I'm pregnant, K (husband) stay away. The smell of him makes me puke without fail (poor him). I got pitikia more times than I can imagine because he came and gave me a hug. He would do everything to change the way he smelled, shower, shave, changed soaps, deoderants everything. Nothing helped.

Food, what food? EVERYTHING I tried made the puking worse. Diet Soda... took the edge off for 3 seconds. Oh how I lived for those 3 seconds.... however, after that blechhhhh. sigh. I feel for you and your pregnancy. Consolation and love abide in my heart for you. If I lived close to you. I'd gladdly take your kids anytime anywhere, all day. Yep, that's the one thing that made my day having the other one gone so I didn't have to move from my couch with my plastic bowl and my wet wipes.

1/30/2006 12:03:00 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

The medical term is hyperemesis (hyper = lots, emesis = vomiting). There's a decent website with FAQ, research summaries and other good stuff here:
http://www.hyperemesis.org/

And amen to the advice about the bucket. Or, my personal favorite, the kitchen sink with disposal. Was anything handier ever invented?

1/30/2006 12:12:00 PM  
Blogger The Wiz said...

Ooooohhh, still? You poor thing, let me bring you over some highly spiced Indian food, something I loved during all my perfect pregnancies. You know, I've heard this can all be psychological, are you sure you're not just imagining it? :) Feel free to hit me.

As far as time speeder upper wand, I don't have it, but I did find that getting a calendar and a HUGE black marker, and making a big X at the end of each day helped. Sort of a mini congrats to me for "making it through the day." Also, I loved doing it "retroactively" from the time I first found out I was pregnant, then I could look back and see all those days I made it through without dying. (fatigue was my big problem, but I'll take that over nausea any day.)

1/30/2006 12:36:00 PM  
Anonymous Chad Too said...

Is the the one medicine that is effective Zofran? We had a prescription for that when my son was on his heaviest chemotherapy.

My insurance covered it, thank heavens, because it was incredibly expensive. Five years ago it was $20-per-pill and we'd sometimes go through 4-a-day.

We still have some on the shelf that my now-post-chemo son asks for if he starts getting queasy. I don't mind giving him one; they're paid for, no side effects, and I figure he's thrown up enough in his lifetime.

1/30/2006 12:42:00 PM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

Consider us "non-sick-pregnancy" women officially chastized. Truly!

I really appreciate your rules because I honestly don't know how it feels. Now I know what not to do and what to do to help my friends in the future.

1/30/2006 12:45:00 PM  
Anonymous Mark IV said...

That's interesting about the ice cream. When my wife was pregnant and sick, frozen yogurt was about the ONLY thing she could eat. The nearest place that sold it was about 10 miles from our house, and as her dear loving husband, I made the round trip twice a day gladly, knowing I had the better part of the deal. And (please forgive me for the rest of what I say :-)) since she wasn't able to cook, I sometimes stopped off at the Sonic and got my favorite junk food for dinner: chili cheese tater tots with onions and jalapenos.

1/30/2006 01:45:00 PM  
Anonymous JKS said...

I recommend knowing the medical name for your condition. It is real, it is serious, and it is life changing. If you call it morning sickness, people will think it is like regular morning sickness.
Tell people you have a "serious condition" and if they ask tell them what it is called.
I like all your great tips for people in your situation. Thanks for sharing.

1/30/2006 02:04:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

HYPEREMESIS, thanks allison, that is the term I couldn't recall.

Yes, Chad, the drug is Zofran, and while it is absolutely and necessarily covered for chemo, the insurance co's think us wussy preggo's don't need it for morning sickness. I hope your son is doing well, by the way.

1/30/2006 02:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Ariel said...

"pack your nose with Vicks"
I hate to burst your bubble, but if you inhale even tiny particles of Vicks, you can get a special kind of pneumonia (much worse than the usual sort). For this reason, it's recommended that it not be used inside the nose.

Here comes the unsolicited advice... feel free to throw me out the window. Have you tried wearing a mask like the kind used by the dentist? Vicks, lotion, or anything else you like can be smeared in the inside of the mask, and it keeps smells down beautifully. This is coming from a nursing student who deals with a lot of nasty stuff, although my nose is not nearly as sensitive as yours.

1/30/2006 02:20:00 PM  
Blogger White Man Retarded said...

Nestle: petechiae

1/30/2006 02:54:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Ariel- ewww! I never heard that about vicks... See, you can't even beleive the 1% of the folktales that might work.

The surgical masks make my own warm breath intollerable. Oh well.

1/30/2006 02:55:00 PM  
Blogger moddy said...

I"m sooooo sorry for you. With my 1st I had no idea how bad it could be and would watch my other prego friends and feel bad for them, but not truly understanding what was wrong with them. Several of my friends have ended up with hospital stays because it got so bad. One of my friends was sitting in a wheelchair getting ready to go home after 6 hours in the hospital to get some IV fluids, and her dr. acutally looked her in the face and told her "it's all in your head, you really need to stop now", she kicked him. When I got pregnant with my daughter I thought I was going to die, and at times I wished I could. The only thing that sounded good and stayed down (most of the time)was the pinto bean taco salad (no meat) at Baja Fresh, for some reason that worked.
I second the kitchen sink with a disposal, if I stood up I didn't have to change my clothes afterwards from peeing my pants!

1/30/2006 03:03:00 PM  
Blogger Goochie said...

I will be forever more sympathic. Thanks for the insight.

1/30/2006 03:24:00 PM  
Anonymous Elizabeth said...

I've pregnant twice, and had evening sickness both times, and on a scale of one to ten with your experience being 10 mine was probably .25 (I think I actually tossed my cookies once each pregnancy).
So here is what I want to know. How did you get the nerve up to get pregnant the second time around? I mean, how to you steel yourself for that sort of thing? I think it must be, and don't laugh at the word, but sort of empowering to know what you're getting ready to take on. I would like to hear how you get yourself mentally prepared.

1/30/2006 03:51:00 PM  
Blogger Mo Mommy said...

Almost 4 years after my first pregnancy, with which I was Horribly ill, I STILL cannot even think about drinking Sprite. Makes me heave.
I thought that the 30 seconds of calm after puking was quite refreshing. Well as close to refreshing as you can get without being able to brush your teeth since you are going to puke if you do.
I've mentioned it before, but I TOTALLY pee'd my pants at girls camp when pregnant with my second. Embarassing? yes. But worth it if you get a little giggle.
Also, I often threw up blood during my pregnancy. It was from ruptured capillaries in my throat from the force of vomiting. So take a few deep breaths and calm down before you call your OB in a hysterical panic like I did. But DO be sure to call.

1/30/2006 04:40:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Rolling on the floor laughing...!Uh, I'm stupid? I don't even know what to say!!

I guess, even though the sickness is terrible, when I look at my children, it's worth it. Most days. There really is no explanation that makes sense to a rational mind. We did discuss this pregnancy more than with the other two, knowing how it would likely be.

My husband really needed to be prepared for it more than I did, as strange as that might sound. He has to pick up such a large share of the around-the-house duties when I am pregnant, and he had to be ready and willing to do that. This one has been tougher too, because of the fact we have a 2 and a 4 year old that need things from Mama I can't give very well right now. You know you're in deep when your kids play "barfing" games.

That said, we have decided this will be the last one. I always wanted four kids, but I also feel very strongly that another one might truly kill me. So, plans change. Now we are, um, *debating* who is going to get snipped. Odds on favorite- bet on me winning that one.

Don't even get me started on people critisizing the number of kids we decide to have, or telling me I will change my mind, or that THREE is just not fullfilling HF's plan. Those are the people whose shoes I want to...emesis...on!

1/30/2006 04:43:00 PM  
Blogger whatserbucket said...

I was that sick for 8 of my nine months. I feel your pain. Hang in there.

1/30/2006 04:44:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was yucky sick like that with my first all the way through, but only half of the time with my second. I had expected to be nasty the whole second pregnancy, so that was a wonderful surprise! I decided to have the second one even in light of the illness because I wanted another baby so much. Now I really want more kids but I'm not willing to risk the awfulness of it all, plus be a bad mom to my two kids in the meantime, so I might be done. I'm really torn about it! Katherine

1/30/2006 04:45:00 PM  
Blogger marian said...

Tracy, I'm so very very sorry. It's not all in your head, but you know that! I truly am impressed that you have continued to have kids after the first, you're a strong woman.

My gag reflex has never returned to normal after the experience of pregnancy sickness - I refuse to call it morning sickness on principle. That's just a stupid name. For me, I had certain smells and foods that would make things worse, but the hardest thing for me was that I couldn't have ANYTHING touching my neck, it would set me off. So there I was walking around New York City in the middle of January with a v-neck shirt, wide open coat, and no scarf. Freezing cold, but also not vomiting on my fellow pedestrians.

1/30/2006 05:10:00 PM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

Throwing stuff up that is still cold IS creepy, along with the Coke that is still carbonated. Especially if you throw it up all over yourself. While driving.

The worst ones for me, though, were definitely brocoli (took me a LONG time to get back on that horse!) and dried apricots. I ate the apricots for the iron, but wow, I highly doubt there is anything worse to throw up.

I had hyperemesis, I think. I was put on Phenergan, but got dangerously tired with it, too. I once fell asleep during a meeting at work while I was taking notes! Bad, bad.

My CNM gave me 2 weeks to gain 5 pounds, or she was going to put me in the hospital. I consulted a dietician, and she literally told me to eat at least 1 cup of ice cream a day, and eat anything with calories I could get down. She also told me not to use the stairs, to park as close to buildings as I could, and do nothing that would burn a single precious calorie.

I wrote down everything I ate for 3 days, showed it to her, and she walked me through what I needed to change. Eating 4 full size peanutbutter cups a day for a week was apparantly not the healthiest thing I've ever done for my body, but I swear the fattier it was, the better I could keep other kinds of foods down! She weaned me off the fatty stuff, and I was eventually able to eat normally around 30 weeks. I gained a healthy 32 pounds overall after I recovered from my initial 12 pound wgt loss. So here's a home remedy for you--go have some Reese's peanutbutter cups!

And know that I truly feel your pain.

1/30/2006 05:24:00 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

Why I keep having kids (long)...

I hate to say it, but part of why I dared to try for more kids after such a bad first pregnancy was denial and self-delusion. I had read that every pregnancy is different, and that severe morning sickness was more likely with first pregnancies. So we crossed our fingers and had another baby. That pregnancy wasn't quite as bad; I was sick for about six months, but only threw up a couple times a day (felt gross all the rest of the time). That pregnancy made me think a third might be doable. It was by far my worst (although still not as bad as Tracy's). I threw up about eight times a day for about five months, then was nauseated for another couple of months after that. Thank heavens for Zofran (which cut the vomiting down just enough that I never had to be hospitalized), and thank heavens my daughters were old enough to help themselves a bit (6 and 3).

I admit, I have no idea what we were thinking this time (the final time) around. Either stupidity or faith played a big part, though.

1/30/2006 05:38:00 PM  
Blogger ShelahBooksIt said...

You definitely (and most unfortunately) sound like the expert. I'm so sorry!

1/30/2006 05:53:00 PM  
Anonymous Elizabeth said...

Tracy
You have earned the right to not be "fixed". After having two c-cections, I decided it was someone else's turn under the knife.

And here's the thing. When DH had his outpatient procedure that did not involve a hospital stay, an iv, any noticeable scarring (even if you reallly look), did he get a prescription for vicodin, norco, etc.? No way. He wasn't even offered a tylenol. So how bad can it be? The only thing the Dr gave him was xanax, ahead of time, so he could be calm during the process.

Men, at least the men I know, are such babies about getting this done. It's not that I want them to suffer; I just want to suffer a little less, and this is a way to spread the family planning around :)

(ps-I know the answer has to be 'because they're worth it', but still, that has to be a major accomplishment to get to it on some days--just give yourself a big pat on the back--lots of women on the planet might not make the same choice.)

1/30/2006 07:04:00 PM  
Blogger hairyshoefairy said...

I'm totally with Marian on the nothing around the neck bit. I wear only v neck or scoop neck now to keep from barfing. Haven't worn a necklace since I got pregnant, the feeling just makes me insane. I also have to agree with the paper plates and utensils. During most of November and all of December I left the dishes until my husband had time to do them cuz I couldn't stnad to smell them. My friend suggested paper plates and life has been so much more pleasant since.

I also don't cook now at all and have resorted to frozen dinners by the cartful at the grocery store. I don't have to smell any of the other aisles, there's some variety, and prep time is nothing. I'm now getting sick of them, but until now it's the only thing that's kept me from starving and I can usually keep it down.

1/30/2006 07:08:00 PM  
Blogger Keryn said...

Tracy, you had me laughing hysterically! Awesome post, and (unfortunately) a little too familiar. I have been lucky in my life that the only time I throw up is when I'm pregnant. (Seriously, I can think of...um...two non-pregnant times in my whole life.)

So when I threw up on Saturday (I know, TMI), I had my husband stop at the store on his way home to buy a pregnancy test. Thankfully (I have a twenty-seven month old and a ten month old, and I'm not quite ready for more yet), it was negative.

I always thought it was terribly unfair that I had to throw up through labor as well as the previous eight months. I had my first in American Fork Hospital on a Sunday, and a dear old man and a terrified-looking young man came to my room to give me the sacrament. My water had just broken and I just barely feeling the most extreme pain. The old man said the prayer over the bread and...I needed to throw up but I couldn't do THAT during the sacrament prayer and so I held my breath until another contraction...as soon as he said, "Amen" I blurted loudly, "I'm going to throw up!" Lucky for me the nurse grabbed a tray and it didn't get everywhere.

The old man took it in stride. The young man? He looked terrified. I probably scarred him for life.

1/30/2006 10:35:00 PM  
Blogger Abby said...

The anesthesiologist doing my first c-section kept asking me if I was sure I needed to throw up again. (he was running out of bowls)

So sorry you are suffering.

Maybe you could do a count down chart.

* I am 115 vomits away from being done

(I would start with a high number. If you ended up throwing up more than planned, it could be crippling to your moral:) )

1/31/2006 01:03:00 AM  
Blogger annegb said...

Tracy, I am 53 years old, and I remember morning sickness like it was yesterday. I keep compazine suppositories in my fridge at all times, and if they don't help, I get to the ER. I cannot stand to be nauseous, at the first sign, I wig.

I know exactly how you feel. And every woman who has been through this has my complete sympathy. Although now I'm laughing at your various stories. Especially Nestle throwing up every time her husband got close to her. That would help to avoid that next pregnancy.

I got some satisfaction when Bill's vasectomy was botched, also when he had the kidney stone.

It is worth it, but it is also extremely traumatic. I did hear, though, that in some women it's a sign of a healthy pregnancy. The one time my morning (day and night) sickness stopped, I lost the baby.

Little buggers suck the life out of you from day one.

1/31/2006 10:10:00 AM  
Blogger The Wiz said...

I have actually never understood the "its all in your head" thing.
I know it says that in "what to expect" and it made me so mad I threw the book across the room. Why would anyone make that up? WHY? If anyone has a logical explanation of where that myth began, I'd love to know it.

1/31/2006 11:26:00 AM  
Anonymous Beanie said...

Having no children of my own yet, I can only imagine what you are going through, or what it is like. Sometimes my imagination is terrible, but your post painted a very clear picture of what some/a lot of women go through. I have no wives tales, no cures, and no great incite about this…but I can pray for you, even if that will only provide you with a sense of comfort and/or piece of mind; even if it is just for 5 minutes. (hmm, not to say that vomiting could ever be comfortable, or will make you crazy)

1/31/2006 12:37:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

The best advice my OB ever gave me was at my first apt with my first baby- She said DO NOT buy the "What to Expect" books- ANY of them! And from what others have told me- I'm glad I listened!

If I had to recommned any book for moms, it's the Parenting Series by Dr. Sears and his wife, Martha. The Pregnancy Book, and The Baby Book were livesavers in our house- even though I am not a necessarily a proponent of the whole "attatched at the hip" thing, there is stellar advice in both books.

1/31/2006 12:52:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tracy - can you explain why your OB told you not to buy any of the "What to expect" books?

1/31/2006 03:19:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

She said they were full of half-information and sensationalisms and were poorly written. She also said the upped the scare-factor more than was necessary or realistic. And since I have read dozens of other books by this point, (as well as skimming friends'copies of WtEwE) I have to agree with her. Just my opinion, though. If you got good things from them, good for you.

1/31/2006 03:32:00 PM  
Blogger Stacy said...

Thanks for sharing your thoroughly dissected account and of morning sickness. The more info, the better, I've always believed; I think you've covered it all here.

1/31/2006 03:37:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks Tracy for your insight about the "what to expect" books. This helps especially to one who's been doing a lot of research preparing for a first child some day. I'm not pregnant yet, although we've been trying for 2 years now. I'm currently on Clomid so hopefully this will do the trick for us. In the mean time, I'm gathering information of what works & what doesn't work. I guess you can say I am really naive but man, I've learned so much from people like you than from any articles. Nothing beats a personal story. Thanks for sharing. :)

1/31/2006 04:08:00 PM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

I have found "The Girlfriend's Guide" to be really helpful, both the guide to pregnancy and the guide to the first year. I was so sad when I finished the one for the first year. It was literally like having a friend by me saying, "Yep, I've been there, too."

Good luck to all those who aren't there yet.

1/31/2006 04:29:00 PM  
Anonymous HeidiA said...

Is it "all in your head"? Sounds like only some of it. The rest of it is on the floor, clothes, towels, car, the cosmos, etc. What an idiot doctor! I shouldn't be mean. Maybe he (I have to assume it must've been a HE) meant to say, "It's all COMING OUT OF your head." IDIOT!! Ooops, sorry, not. After going through what you have, I'd say you could conquer the world, post-pregnancy of course. I've already said a prayer for you. Thanks for the words of wisdom. I've really enjoyed reading all of your posts.

1/31/2006 07:37:00 PM  
Blogger Carrie W. said...

The line that got me from "What to Expect..." was something along the lines of, "When eating, before you take a bite, ask yourself, 'Is this the best thing I can eat for my baby? Is this adding necessary nutrition for my baby?'"

I think I tossed the book to the floor and got up and ate a bowl of ice cream and a candy bar. Jerks.

A friend who will come and take your kids for a few hours is wonderful. That's what I needed AFTER I had baby #1. I was so overwhelmed and tired and depressed that a few hours to nap was what I desperately wanted.

1/31/2006 10:39:00 PM  
Blogger a spectator said...

This post is excellent birth control.

1/31/2006 11:13:00 PM  
Blogger hairyshoefairy said...

So with you on not liking "What to Expect" Too much that doesn't apply to me and too much that isn't anything most people need to worry about but freaks you out. I too like "Girlfriends Guide" a lot. I also picked up "Pregnancy Sucks: What to do when your miracle makes you miserable" which is a month-by-month book and makes me laugh.

2/01/2006 01:05:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May I offer adoption as a consideration...As mother of three, only one my birth child, I found adoption infinately easier (not to say easy!) than live birth. Granted I didn't have nausea and vommiting during my pregnancy, just during the "getting pregnant" stage--much longer than nine month gestation. And I also offer laprascopic hysterctomy as a pleasant alternative to hubby being "fixed". The obvious side effect is no more monthly! Thanks for the info on how to help.

2/01/2006 11:40:00 AM  
Blogger Island Queen said...

Tracy - loved the post!! It made me laugh :-) and remember.

I too, have been there. Ironing DH's shirt - quick run to the sink - back to ironing. On stage singing with the choir - gag, run to the bathroom - back on stage. Co-workers' lunch time - blech! - run to the bathroom - back to my office. sigh ... all in a day's work. Also - gottal love the black and blue marks from the IV's eh?

And having my older Sister - of all people! - tell me "are you just trying to get attention?" [side note - didn't speak to her for almost 2 years. 5 kids for her and no sickness]

Although I know how it totally sucks for you I'm comforted in knowing I'm not alone.

2/01/2006 03:09:00 PM  
Blogger Mo Mommy said...

I too, read in what to expect" that morning sickness can be mostly mental. So when I started puking I thought I was nuts. Pretty much nothing else in the book was helpful to me either. And the clinic on base gives it to EVERYONE who is pregnant. I never thought it was a problem until a friend of mine called me in tears because of something she had read. It was so trivial that I forget now what it was, but she pretty much thought she had messed up her baby for life.
But I didn't feel like birthing classes were a necessity either. At least not for $85. So I skipped them and did just fine. To each their own I suppose.

2/01/2006 05:55:00 PM  
Blogger wendysue said...

I think you can already tell by all the comments but you are definitely not alone! My 3rd girl was born almost a year ago. I was on Zofran for my 2nd, and a trip to the hospital for rehydration with all of them. The puking during delivery just tops it all off doesn't it?. . .that's the only time my hubby about lost it "hurry, grab the trash can!!"

I think after suffering through all this, it could be hubby's turn for the snip. My husband looked at me once on a particularly terrible day, and said "do you want me to call to make my appointment?". We haven't completely shut the door on another one, but I think, biologically I'm done (my last baby was also MSPI--milk, soy, protein intolerant--which basically means I could eat nothing while nursing.) I think she did me in.

I know you don't need to hear another remedy, the only thing that worked for me was what my midwife said. . . if you think you can eat it and keep it down, eat it, I don't care what it is. So I lived on french fries (from a fast food place here in Nebraska), and Brown Sugar Pop Tarts. The baby will get what it needs, it's you that gets the shaft.

Hang on. . .as my husband would say when the end was near. . it WILL be over, I promise. You will not be a medical marvel and be pregnant forever, it will END!!

2/01/2006 09:48:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post--it is timely and gave me just a little ray of hope that I too could make it through the next bazillion weeks of hyperemesis. My doctor called in a prescription for Zofran today, as a hopeful alternative to a permanent IV. Lovely. And Heather O., I beg to differ. I think popcorn might be the worst thing ever to throw up. But I haven't tried broccoli--it is now on the "no" list, along with most other foods. :) And yes, plastic zip loc bags DO help temper the vomiting on the Metro experience. But just barely. Hang in there Tracy.

2/01/2006 10:24:00 PM  
Blogger HLH said...

How did you manage to write this post without throwing up?! When I was sick with my first I couldn't even think, let alone talk about, hureling without doing it!

Hope she comes a little early for you (healthy early of course!)

2/01/2006 11:43:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Everyone: thanks for all the support.

My doctor told me the same thing- if it stays down, eat it- who care what the nutrition is. Kool-aid, pop-tarts and things of that nature are usually kind to my stomach, for some unholy reason. Oh, and peanut butter cups are ok, too. When else can you eat candy, kool aid and pop tarts and loose weight each month?? ;)

With ya on the popcorn wagon, very very bad- ditto broccoli and fried eggs. There are just some things I may NEVER eat again. Oh well!

2/02/2006 12:28:00 AM  
Anonymous Chad Too said...

So if I were to get the pediatric oncologist to renew my son's prescription for Zofran and then sell it under the table to hyperemetic pregnant women... Ooh the possibilities! j/k

2/02/2006 12:33:00 PM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

Chad too-

Oh yes, the possibilities are frightening!

Anon--

You're right--popcorn is pretty bad. Especially when some of the kernals get stuck in your nose on the way up. (Sorry for the image, but it happened. Really.)

2/02/2006 03:36:00 PM  
Blogger posted by said...

pregnancy, vomiting dirty nappies,
All I can say is what about the men and the things we have to go through, Its not easy to be a man in this world, and it harder being the husband to a pregnant wife

2/03/2006 07:03:00 AM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Within-

Uh, kind Sir, did you notice the title of this site?

Have at a "Mormon Daddy Dudes" if you want.

And personally, I would trade with my DH any day to go off to work while he stayed home and puked all day while tending a 2 and 4 year old, changing nappies and attempted to keep the house running.

ANY DAY.

2/03/2006 11:35:00 AM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

Within-

DH got mono when he was in law school, which meant that he spent months being exhausted and literally having to rest after walking to class, 15 minutes from our house. He would often come home and sleep for hours, only to wake up still tired. One day, he threw up dinner, and was totally freaked out because the food still tasted the same coming up as it did going down! (And yes, sadly, I served broccoli that night.) He was practically in tears after he threw up, and as I lovingly cleaned him up, I (not as lovingly, I admit) said, "Well, now you know what it's like to be pregnant!" He said, bitterly, "Now you know what it's like to be married to somebody who's pregnant!"

It is hard, it's true, I believe you. DH would often wonder aloud, "When am I going to get my wife back?"

He would then dodge the pillow I would inevitably throw at his head.

Still, he only threw up once.

2/03/2006 06:24:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I found this post from a google search and I am so relieved to read other women's experiences with this. I have thrown up so hard today that my face is covered with burst capilliaries and I was sure I was having some sort of stroke. I'm relieved to know that it is "normal". All the tips are great, maybe I'd have had a better time today if I had more liquid in my stomach. Argh. This is my second pregnancy, with my first this 24 hour extreme nausea lasted 21 weeks - I had the second 1/2 of the pregnancy "off"! I am 8 weeks now with my second and so far it is just as bad. I am ashamed to say that before I ever had a pregnancy, I too thought pregnancy sickness was "an attitude issue". Yikes! I also thought stretch marks only happened to women who didn't use the right skin lotion - LOL! Oh, how I learned. Have you read "Pregnancy Sickness" by Margie Profet? It is good to know there might be a purpose to the sickness, as I lie in bed for 4 months.

Michelle

12/03/2006 04:40:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All I can say is I am thanking God for the light nausea i am feeling... reading your report makes me feel so thankfull... Knowing it could be worse.

1/23/2008 07:09:00 PM  
Anonymous Brittany said...

I'm glad i found this as well. i just recently started throwing up multiple times a day and just doing so and this being the first child...i wasn't ready at ALL. i'm just glad my husband is willing to go through this w/ me (seeing it's his sperm that caused this) but i'm wondering something...i couldn't eat a piece of toast w/o throwing up. is there any foods anyone can tell me about that i can actually eat? b/c it ain't fun going to bed on an empty stomach.

4/21/2009 01:12:00 AM  

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