12/10/2005

What kind of mother ARE you?

Recently, I was chatting with my sister, as I do quite often, and we were talking about Christmas. I mentioned that my MIL was getting my kids a sled for Christmas, and I was less than thrilled about it, because I was whining, because sledding is way cold, it hurts my back (is that normal?) and I just don't enjoy it much. I even said something to the effect that my kids have never been sledding. She wigged out. "Your oldest is six! Your kids have never been sledding?!!?! What kind of mother ARE you?" I am the kind of mother that likes to be warm, thank you very much! But I couldn't get the question out of my head. What kind of mother am I? We do need to make sacrifices for our kids, and occasionally getting your fingers frozen off and your toes numb and a backache is a small price to pay for seeing your kids be happy, and creating a winter memory for them. I even have a great sledding hill just across the street, so it's not like I would even have to go far. I still think my life would be complete if I'd never been sledding in my life. In fact, I think I could live a full and productive life never seeing snow AGAIN, but that's just me. I have a responsibility to not pass my pure hatred of winter onto my children, yes? They should have some memories of snow being fun, despite the fact that their mother has been known to cry at weather forecasts when snow is predicted. And then today, DH called and asked for kids SSN's to fill out insurance forms. Normally, I know right where they are, complete with immunization records and everything. So I go to the drawer, and ACK! They're not there! I eventually found the Social Security Cards, but 2 of the 3 immunization records are still missing. What kind of a mother loses this information? My kid's room is a mess, and most of the time I don't care. My room has even been known to be less than pristine. What kind of a mother doesn't teach her children to make their beds and do routine maintenance? And to top it all off, a few days ago, my oldest is getting dressed for school. She comes in my room, and I tell her to go put longer pants on, it's really cold out there. Are you ready for this one? She DOESN'T HAVE ANY LONG PANTS!!! What kind of mother doesn't notice, just as the weather turns bitter cold, that her child just shot up like 3 inches, and now all her "long pants" are now "capris"? But at the same time, I look at the Christmas presents stashed around the house, and I know they will make my children happy. What kind of mother knows exactly what makes her children smile? My children are polite and happy children, for the most part. Thank heaven, because who knows what kinds of mother they have.

22 Comments:

Blogger Lisa M. said...

The kind of mother that does these things, is the same kind of mother who loves her children, keeps up the best she can, and does it warmly!

*chuckle*

Great post. I always enjoy them!

12/10/2005 02:57:00 PM  
Anonymous Kim Siever said...

Our daughter's seven and she hasn't been sledding

12/10/2005 03:09:00 PM  
Blogger Clark Goble said...

Took my son (14mo) sledding for the first time this week. He loved it. He didn't want to come in. Admittedly I had to open a couple of Christmas presents early (his coat and sled) but the snow beckoned to me.

12/10/2005 03:18:00 PM  
Anonymous JKS said...

You are a great mother. Kids don't have to have EVERY fun experience. So if sledding is skipped, oh well. Remember that there isn't one kind of good mother. You bring your unique talents and joys to motherhood.

12/10/2005 05:28:00 PM  
Anonymous JKS said...

LOL, I forgot to add: I have never taken my children sledding. I make my husband do it.
I am a believer in the "we bring our own unique joys and talents to our kids" LOL. My husband's unique joy and talent has to be sledding, because I told him I'm not going out there in the snow!
Not really, but it wouldn't have occurred to me to go out there amd sled, but he was willing to do it.
Sometimes I think it is really cool that my kids have both me and my husband because we definitely are different and our kids have a more balanced upbringing because of it.
So, blame your husband's fathering skills, not your mothering skills LOL! Come on, everyone knows its the Dad's job, right? And the mom stays inside and makes hot chocolate for everyone or something? Come on, lets focus on gender division of labor here, ladies, especially if it means we get to stay inside and be warm "Sorry honey, you've got to take the kids sledding....I have to stay home with the baby...or maybe I have so many dishes to do--a woman's work is never done!"

12/10/2005 05:41:00 PM  
Blogger Carol said...

As my twins grew to the age of 1 and semi-interested in different toys, I thought, "oh, they need to have everything." As they got older, I thought "oh, they need to have the nicest things, and 1 for each." They turned 4 last week, and they weren't given a single toy, at least not by me. I've realized that while each individual toy or activity would be fun, they don't need EVERYTHING to make them happy. They are just as happy with their toys from a Happy Meal! So not only do I not need to buy them so much, but I also don't have to get them the MOST expensive things or clothes. It took me 4 years to really grasp this, and I'm sure I will slide a time or two, as they really would love that Barbie Jeep(which they're getting for Christmas, only 1 though). My point, a child, or adult, doesn't have to do everything, or have everything to be fulfilled in life.

Thanks for the great posts, I read daily...

12/11/2005 03:24:00 PM  
Blogger White Man Retarded said...

Hey! I'm from Houston. Uh, I tried to take the kids sledding, but the blades kept creating sparks on the concrete. I started sweating profusely in our 70 degree humid weather, and I thought, sledding sucks...

12/11/2005 06:57:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Our high today was 17 degrees... No way am I taking the kids out in the snow! I think sledding is overated anyway- it takes 20 minutes to get them all bundled up and in boots and everything you need to be warm when it's snowing, then someone has to pee, and you have to start all over, if you make it to the potty in time, and if not, then you have to find dry snow clothes while everyone else waits. Then when you finally get outside, they make one or two runs down the hill, and are tired and want to be picked up or are cold, or have to pee again. So you go home, and have soaking wet clothes and boots and socks and mittens and scarves for five people, and the kids are freezing and grumpy and then I have to mop the kitchen because we don't have a mudroom and the puddles of snow have melted everywhere and are being walked in by freshly socked feet. Then they all want hot chocolate, and I loose it and yell at everyone and we all start crying. Hooray! Lets all go sledding!

No, Thanks! You're not a bad mom, you're a sane mom. Keep up the good work!

12/11/2005 08:42:00 PM  
Anonymous Sue said...

Louis, you made me laugh out loud...

12/12/2005 02:03:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tracy, lately I feel that way about every 'fun' activity: I have this perfect vision of how we are all going to have such a fun time making cookies/decorating the tree/delivering ornaments to friends/sledding and we end up arguing and crabby instead.... are we suffering from what DH calls PotteryBarnCatalogitis - thinking we can create a perfect experience?

12/12/2005 10:43:00 AM  
Blogger adair said...

I wouldn't worry about your children having EVERY experience. I grew up in the Phoenix area -> no snow. We may have gone to Utah for a few winters, but I don't remember ever having been on a sled in my 24 years of living. I have never been skiing or seen the Grand Canyon.

I don't feel cheated. My mother was always there for me and helped my with my homework...until she couldn't understand it anymore.

What type of mother are you?? YOU!! Don't try to be like someone else. That is what makes mothers special, they are all different.

12/12/2005 03:35:00 PM  
Anonymous Elizabeth said...

How about this? Why don't I come take your people sledding, and you come do scrap-booking stuff for me that hasn't been done since sometime after I got married?

Scrapbooking is just about the most heinous thing I can think of to do, but I still feel compelled to, in order for my children to have their "personal history" in place (my sense is that the devil uses scrapbooking as a distraction--I'm only half-kidding here).

My point is, your children will live without sledding with you, and mine will somehow survive without their photos all fancy.

I'm sure you are a super mom!

12/12/2005 03:38:00 PM  
Anonymous The Wiz's sister said...

You should've said to your sister, "Are you accusing me of not being a great mother? What kind of sister ARE you?"

12/12/2005 04:10:00 PM  
Blogger Ana said...

I have a great idea! Live in California! No snow! Ever! And I don't miss it! One little bit! Not even at Christmas!

Do you think that sales pitch was a little overenthusiastic? What kind of salesperson AM I?

12/12/2005 05:17:00 PM  
Blogger The Wiz said...

elizabeth-
I'm not acrapbooking for you. I rank that right up there with sledding. And I half agree with you about the devil using it as a distraction.

I would love to live where there is no snow. Dare to dream.....

12/12/2005 06:05:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Lived in California for the first 29 years of my life... Now I live in the snow, where a tract home is NOT $1.2 million, and I could stay home with my kids...

OK trade off, even with the horrors of sledding!

12/12/2005 07:47:00 PM  
Anonymous wbpraw said...

I'm the kind of mother who's daughter has been wearing her best friend's flip flops to church for about 3 weeks, so I finally took her to get new church shoes (late Saturday night) and AACK! she's a size 6 and every pair of shoes she owns are a size 4 or smaller. Needless to say, she got four pair of new shoes in one shot - Before Christmas. BTW - their rooms are ALSO always messy and I ALSO hate sledding. Could we be related?

12/12/2005 09:24:00 PM  
Blogger Lisa M. said...

A hill, an ice block, and you have a sled.

12/13/2005 01:16:00 AM  
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12/13/2005 05:16:00 AM  
Anonymous claire said...

wpbraw, don't feel too bad. I've found there's not much difference between a girl's size 4 and a women's size 6., at least not in length.

12/13/2005 12:41:00 PM  
Blogger mindy said...

I hear ya, the wiz. I am very much a mommy who likes to stay warm. My 3 y.o. daughter has a snow suit, and she goes out everyonce in a while, but since I have no desire to be out in the freezing cold, and I don't have a snow suit for the 1 y.o., we stay inside.

I could happily do without snow. Or maybe it would be okay if it didn't come when it's so blasted cold.

12/14/2005 06:41:00 PM  
Anonymous LisaB said...

I bought myself new snowpants and good ski gloves this year for this very reason (not enjoying going out if I'm going to be cold & wet). And we only get a couple days of good snow a year out here! I'm usually the send em out with Dad type, too.

12/30/2005 11:42:00 PM  

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