When to shower?

So, Heather's comment on creating her 'Ode to Motherhood' while in the shower got me thinking. When do all of you shower? Today I woke up to Jr wanting to get out of his crib. No shower before he woke up... Then, the rest of my day has been pretty normal. No shower while Jr was sleeping because I had to be on a conference call for work. When I'm about to get in the shower, Jr wakes up. So, I just get dressed, no shower. When I shower when Jr is awake, he screams the WHOLE time. Any suggestions?


Blogger The Wiz said...

If you wake up to him wanting to get out of his crib, hurry and jump in the shower while he still thinks you're asleep. Let him play, or cry, for a little while in there. You know he's safe, he's not getting into stuff, and will be there when you get out.

Other than that, I plug them into a show and tell them I will be right back, I have to go jump in the shower. They seem to have accepted this. At 13 months, though, that logic is probably beyond him.

Lock him in his high chair with something to munch on, turn on Teletubbies, and use that half hour to get ready.

10/03/2005 06:21:00 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

I either shower before my husband leaves for work in the morning or, more often lately, as soon as the oldest two are on the school bus I pack toddler boy into the car, go work out, then shower and get completely ready at the club.

I've also had times when I was so desperate I locked him into the bathroom with me and took a bath so I could at least watch him while bathing. Not at all relaxing (and he kept throwing things into the tub) but it got the job done.

10/03/2005 07:54:00 PM  
Blogger Amira said...

I can't figure out why more mothers don't shower at night after their children go to bed. I've always done this, and it's lovely. I am still perfectly clean in the morning and I don't have to worry about getting that silly shower in.

10/03/2005 09:30:00 PM  
Blogger annegb said...

My little grandson would cry when I got in the tub,it was funny. He was two and he wanted me. I just gritted my teeth and took the bath. It only takes a minute and the crying doesn't hurt them. Maybe it gets rid of those bad chemicals.

10/03/2005 10:54:00 PM  
Blogger Tracy M said...

Put the baby in the walker or saucer in the bathroom with you and shower away. This works well, although now I totally do the night shower thing, and it works even better

10/03/2005 11:20:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I was home with my newborn, I found that he wanted to take a very short nap every day around 12:15. I found I had just enough time to shower and shave (I shave in the shower) and get dressed before he woke up again around 12:45.

Later on, when I was home again with him, he would take 3-hour afternoon naps. No joke. I was amazed at how much I could get done, including showering!

Chad Too

10/04/2005 03:33:00 AM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Shower with your husband.

10/04/2005 03:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Sue M said...

Sometimes kids have to scream. You have basic needs that have to be met.

When I need to shower, I put the two oldest in front of the TV, and take little guy (12 months) into the bathroom with me, shut the toilet door, make sure there is nothing dangerous around, and let him toddle around. He usually bangs on the shower door, but that's about it.

When I shower at night, my hair looks like crap all day, plus I just don't feel as fresh in the morning. That's just me though.

10/04/2005 09:46:00 AM  
Anonymous claire said...

I often took my babies in the shower with me. You never have to feel resentful of their needs or guilty for letting them cry. Works especially well in a bathtub shower since you can lay them on a towel on the shallow end and turn the shower on the deep end. As they get older, they can sit up. Bonus... you can bathe them at the same time! I'm looking forward to having a little shower companion again in a week or two.....my youngest is 6 now and has been taking her own shower or bath for a long time :-)

10/04/2005 09:55:00 AM  
Blogger Mrs. M said...

This is the dilemma of mothers. I try to shower in the morning before DH leaves. If that doesn't work, I put 6mo in his crib to play and put 2yo in a different room so he won't hurt 6mo. I have 2 types of showers. One is the shave-my-legs-wash-my-hair shower for when DH is home or the kids are asleep. The other is jump-in-soap-up-jump-out-keep-hair-dry shower that takes about 30 seconds, reserved for other times when the kids are screaming. I try to alternate days.

10/04/2005 01:08:00 PM  
Blogger Ana said...

Many good alternatives. My other favorite when I was a mom at home was to pack up the wee ones and leave them in the very fun and trustworthy childcare at the gym for 90 minutes while I exercised and showered. It was a total sanity saver, and totally worth the money it required -- $14/mo for gym memberships since I paid 3 years at a time, and $3.50 per care session for the kids. That was when I had 2.

10/04/2005 01:35:00 PM  
Blogger Ana said...

Meaning, when I had two as opposed to when I just had one. The way I wrote that makes it sound like I have more than two now. I wish that were the case, but that's a whole different topic!

10/04/2005 01:36:00 PM  
Anonymous JKS said...

Now that my older kids go to school, I have a schedule to follow and an alarm clock to set. I try to get up 15 minutes before the 20 month old usually wakes up so I can shower.

10/04/2005 03:14:00 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

Okay so what exactly does DH stand for? I guess I'm not a proficient blogger yet

10/04/2005 03:29:00 PM  
Anonymous Beanie said...

DH= Dear Husband

10/04/2005 04:30:00 PM  
Blogger Kristine said...

When my kids were little (3 of them under 4), someone asked me once when I showered. I said "Thursday" before I realized they were probably wondering what time of day I showered *every day.* I just tried to think of myself as European and oh-so-environmentally-correct on those days when I never made it into the shower.

I'm in the hair-looks-like-crap-if-I-shower-at-night crowd; otherwise, that seems like the obvious solution.

10/04/2005 04:49:00 PM  
Anonymous claire said...

It's funny, since I've had kids my pretty straight hair has turned curly and looks _better_ when I sleep on it wet. Wierd, huh?

10/04/2005 05:54:00 PM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

I used to always just take Jacob into the shower with me. I figured he was young enough that I wasn't harming him psychologically by having him see his mother naked. When he had a shower/bath combo, he would just pull his toys in the shower with me, and play happily at my feet while I did everything I needed to do, shaving included. (DH was not pleased when he was taking a shower with Jacob and Jacob started mimicing shaving his legs. DH quickly got into the habit of showing Jacob how to shave his face, and now their Sunday routine is to shave together, then shower together. Jacob takes his shirt off like Daddy, then rubs shaving cream all over his face and hands and chest. It's very cute!)

Now that Jacob is older, I do feel it's a little bit inappropriate to have him with me in the shower, but now he's old enough to be left unsupervised for the 10 minutes it takes me to shower. Usually, I do what the Wiz does--I plug him into a video and make a dash for it. Lots of times, though, I come out of the shower and find him playing happily with toys outside the bathroom door. I also never leave the door locked in case he needs me, and I always tell him I'm getting in the shower so he'll know where to find me if there's a problem.

I hate showering at night. It wakes me up, I get wired, and my hair always looks like crap, too. I am definitely a morning shower person.

10/04/2005 06:12:00 PM  
Blogger mindy said...

i'm sure this has been said (i have yet to read all the comments), but on those days I just stick he babe in the shower with me. I do NOT like not showering when I want to. Now that I have 2 kids, my 3yo often keeps an eye on the 9mo, but when the 3yo was an infant, I remember very much feeling like I was lucky to get into the shower by dinnertime. I think after the 1st kid you realize that some things are okay to let your kid scream about, and taking a sanity-saving 3 minute shower is one of them. Sometimes even now my 9mo will stand at the bathroom door and pound on it and wail, but I figure I'll be a better mom if I'm feeling clean and refreshed, and 3 minutes of crying will just help him sleep better later!

10/09/2005 12:34:00 AM  

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