Will I ever know what to do?
Two weeks ago, we’re over at Grandma’s house & Jr trips on the carpet. Nothing new here, he trips ALL the time (especially since he started wearing shoes—he still kind of looks like he has lead attached to his feet when he walks). Well, his head was magnetically attracted to the coffee table. And not just the coffee table, but the very corner of the coffee table. Blood everywhere. Screaming. HUGE GOOSE EGG. Grandma says to put ice on it. Well the kid SCREAMS even more when we try that. Goose egg is getting even bigger…is that possible? Goose egg is getting even MORE blue…is that possible? Force ice or no ice? Tylenol or no Tylenol? And how do I stop the pints of blood screaming down my kid’s face from his forehead? Two days later, it’s Jr’s 12 month doctor’s appointment (really 13 month because apparently you have to book all of your check-up appointments when they are first born or your out of luck). Doctor comes in. No, I don’t abuse my child…he just looks like he was hit with a 2 x 4… blah…blah. Nurse comes in to give shots. She asks me to hold his arms while she gives him the FIVE shots. Complete torture. One, two, three. One leg done. Jr’s not breathing because he’s crying so hard. Next leg. Four…then comes five. Jr is SCREAMING & I forgot what I’m supposed to be doing. Nurse screams as the fifth shot is going in, ‘Hold his arm!’ Oh yea, I’m supposed to be holding back his arms so he doesn’t try to…needle pops out of his skin & some oozes down his leg. Did he get enough in him? Nurse seems to think he got enough… Inside, I’m sure she’s thinking ‘What a dumb Mom, I told her to hold the kid’s arm.’ Turns out Jr has an ear infection. The Wiz knew this when I talked to her on the phone a few days earlier & diagnosed it for me. Should I have known this without some one having to tell me? Should I have done something about it sooner than the appointment I already had scheduled? Well, Jr’s given a prescription for Amoxicillion & we’re good to go home. Eight days later….bedtime. Jr feels warm. Does he have a fever? Where’s the thermometer? Did it just walk away? 20 minutes later, oh, there is it. Yes, he does have a fever… Tylenol or no Tylenol? It’s pretty bad, so I guess Tylenol. Is that a spot on his skin? Um…that’s weird. The next morning. Jr definitely has spots all over him. What? I call the nurse. Yes, it’s somewhat common for kids to get a rash & have a fever after getting the chicken pox shot. It will usually break out 8 – 10 days after the shot if it happens, so he’s right on schedule. It will get better in a couple of days. Is this a rash? I guess so. Jr is fine all day until that evening… Even more spots on him..old spots are turning into welts…fever is higher… he looks miserable & only wants to be held. Why did I have him get the chicken pox vaccination? Shouldn’t some one have warned me that my kid might end up looking like this? It should be better in a day or two, right? Bath or no bath? Soap or no soap? Benedryl or no Benedryl? Clothes or no clothes? Shouldn’t this kid have come with a manual? Yesterday, poor kid. He can’t walk because the welts on his inner thigh must have hurt too much. Doctor or no doctor? I give him a cool bath to help bring down his temperature. He’s shivering. What do I do? This morning, Jr doesn’t look any better. He’s going to the doctor. I call to make an appointment. The lady on the phone asks me if I know where the back door is located. I tell her I do. She said to knock on it & some one will let me in the back & take me directly to a room. That freaks me out! My kid must be contagious? After all, they are treating him like a leper. The nurse asks me to keep him on my lap & not let him play with the toys in the room. Yea, right, I’m supposed to keep this curious kid on my lap when he sees these toys calling his name? The doctor will be how long? 15 minutes? Impossible. I give him my cell phone, my wallet, my purse, anything that other kids wouldn't touch to entertain him. Junior is screaming wanting to get off my lap & play with the toys. Finally, the doctor comes in. ‘oh’. Oh? Is that a good 'Oh' or a bad 'Oh'? After a few minutes of diagnosis, the doctor informs me that it is definitely not a rash from the chicken pox shot. It’s not? It’s a condition called blah.blah.blah. A condition called what? That's an awfully long name, what does it mean? Basically, big hives. Hives? Hives from what? Hives from the Amoxicillion he's been on. But he’s been on that before, that can’t be it. The doctor then reminds me that I know nothing & that sometimes allergies to penicillins don’t occur until the second time it’s used. Oh. So why didn’t I take him to the doctor earlier? Why didn’t I realize that it wasn’t just a rash? Why did I wait it out? How much longer will I have to deal with a child with whatever condition is called having big hives? Will I ever know what to do?