9/22/2005

There's a nightmare in my closet

I dreamed last night I was on a boat to heaven....(another musical reference, this one far less obscure. Another pretend thousand dollars to the first person who accurately names it.) Actually, I dreamed last night that my DH left me. Not for any reason, really, just that he was tired of being married, and decided not to be married anymore. It was devastating. My kids would run over to his condo after school (becuase in my dream, there were condos on my street, and all my kids were school age). And they didn't know what to do, and I didn't know what to do, and my in-laws were in the dream and didn't know what to do, and basically, it was just a horrible dream. When I woke up, and realized it WAS a dream, I was so relieved I almost cried. I made my husband promise like five times before he went to work that he had no plans to leave me. I couldn't even be mad at him for causing me all this pain, because it's not like he did it on purpose. Or did he? Hmmmm.........No. Let me just say that I'm not one of those people who dream things and then have them come true. No, my psychicness (It's a word! It is!) is only when I'm awake. And usually I don't remember my dreams, or if I do, I can trace them back to stuff I had seen or heard recently. (You know, like reading about Nazi Germany is a sure way to get yourself into a concentration camp in your sleep. That kind of stuff.) And even though I'm fairly sure this dream is related to a TV show I saw the other day, it still upset me. I think I have a very happy marriage! I even said so in the dream! But it didn't work, he still went to live in the Magically Appearing Condominiums. Ever dream that your husband was having an affair and then stay mad at him for days? (Been there.) Ever dream that you gave birth to a baby only to wake up and wonder where it went? (Done that.) Come on, people, bring on the weird dream stories! Because everybody knows that sleep deprivation brings out the weirdest stuff when it comes to dreams. And since we're all mothers, the sleep deprivation is a very real thing for us. Or at least used to be. And possibly will be again, because somehow most of us are stupid/noble (do those two words have the same root?) enough to try for a newborn again. We forget the nightmares, somehow.

20 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

guys and dolls

9/22/2005 11:23:00 PM  
Blogger Lisa M. said...

I have had horrible dreams..about my spouse too, and sometimes I have even had a ..what is the word, a hard time letting go of it. Not really.. but I hung on to that "anger" all day long.

It is crazy isn't it?

9/23/2005 02:40:00 AM  
Anonymous Susan M said...

My dreams are usually symbolic and are trying to tell me something. Which is why I'm glad I rarely remember my dreams.

The coolest dream I ever had (and not a symbolic one...I don't think) was one where I was a girl with two guy friends and we were going through this large factory type of warehouse, and bad guys were chasing us, and we had big karate fights, and at the end, a big shootout. Just like a movie.

Except at the end, I went back to the start of the dream, and went through the whole thing again, but this time I was one of the guys. So I got to see it all again from his perspective. It was so cool. Especially since at one point he got separated from the others and I got to experience what he'd done before they met up at the end for the big showdown fight.

9/23/2005 09:57:00 AM  
Blogger annegb said...

Yes, I've had those kinds of dreams.

My husband has them also, because his former wife cheated on him and it was so painful for him when she left. I'm very nice to him when he has those dreams.

I had the most erotic dream of my life the other night--not sexual, really, not that--but I dreamt I was young again and I had a boyfriend who looked like a Harlequin romance guy and we were speeding around in a big jacked up car. It was just a fun dream.

And I never saw that guy in my life and I have no idea where it came from. It was more like watching a movie than a personal experience.

Go figure.

I have actually woken (is that word?) up and smacked my husband when he cheats on me in my dreams. I'm like you, Lisa :). He just laughs.

9/23/2005 11:10:00 AM  
Blogger Mrs. M said...

My husband is the dreamer at our house. He has a recurring nightmare which is that he is married to me and married to someone else at the same time, with no memory in the dream of how it happened and no clue who his other wife is. Almost always his dreams are stressful.

But now that I'm thinking about it, I have all kinds of crazy dreams as we talk before bed. I fall asleep fast, then he says something, and I wake up and realize I was dreaming.

9/23/2005 11:40:00 AM  
Anonymous Emily said...

Funniest dream ever - I woke up in the middle of the night laughing so hard my husband was laughing too - woke him up also. I had a dream that I picked up our new cute little dog (which we don't have yet) and held it tummy out under it's front legs and it pee'd all over my boss at work and I was laughing at him and moving the dog up and down and back and forth to get good coverage. I still laugh about it now. That dream was definately an emotional release and told me what I really felt about my boss.

9/23/2005 12:05:00 PM  
Anonymous Mary said...

I have had the spouse cheating on me dream before. I hate those.

The most disturbing dreams I have, though, are the dreams where all my teeth fall out. I know these come when I am under stress, but they are so real and terrible! It starts with me noticing that one of my teeth feels loose, then suddenly, all of my teeth are falling out into my mouth and I end up spitting out tooth after tooth. It is awful.

The best and most vivid dream I ever had was just before we started our 4-year process to try to concieve our daughter. We weren't ttc yet, but it became a reassuring memory to me during our IF. Anyway, all I remember was holding this beautiful baby girl on my lap and looking into her smiling face and saying, "Oh, she's so beautiful." And I actually woke myself up crying about what a wonderful baby I had in the dream.

9/23/2005 09:07:00 PM  
Blogger Keryn said...

For some reason when I am stressed I dream about chewing gum. Usually I'm just doing normal, everyday things with a little piece of gum in my mouth. But then the gum gets bigger and bigger and bigger until it's like I have three packages of Bubbalicious in my mouth. My jaw starts hurting and I want to get rid of it, but everytime I spit it out there's more...Maybe my subconcious is trying to tell me that I have bit off more than I can chew.

At any rate, I can't chew gum anymore.

9/23/2005 11:55:00 PM  
Blogger The Wiz said...

Ok, that gum thing is freaking me out. I don't know if I'll ever be able to chew gum anymore, either.

susan m - that is the coolest dream ever.

emily - yes, funniest dream ever. Are you sure it wasn't a daydream? Sometimes I would have liked to do that to my boss with my dog. LOL

9/24/2005 12:08:00 AM  
Blogger mindy said...

I have had a few dreams about DH being involved with someone else. It KILLS me. I had a lot of jealousy issues over old girl (SPACE) friends of his when we were engaged and first married, and they weren't even girlfriends, just friends. Sometimes these dreams are a good kick in the butt to remind me to show my love & gratitude for DH more obviously.

Definitely had weird preggo dreams. One was REALLY disturbing, so I don't share it. I had a vivid dream while preg w/ #2 that he was born in the hospital (instead of at home like planned) and I couldn't find him, and I wandered all over looking for him.

9/24/2005 01:16:00 AM  
Blogger annegb said...

I wake up laughing sometimes, too! I will have a really funny dream and when I wake up, I can't stop laughing, but I've forgotten the dream.

It freaks my husband out. Then I keep laughing because it's so funny to think about somebody being waked (?) up by maniacal laughter. It goes on for awhie. Because then he starts laughing at the thought of his crazy wife.

9/24/2005 10:44:00 AM  
Blogger Heather O. said...

Oh, the preggo dreams. In the interest of TMI, I won't share the details of a sex dream I had when I was pregnant, other than the overwhemling thought the entire time was, "You're squishing my baby!"

I have had the cheating dream, too, in all it's forms: DH cheating on me, me cheating on him, me getting to the altar and seeing DH in the audience, and panicking because that meant I was marrying somebody else and I had no idea who. I hate those.

My favoriate nocturnal events though are when DH starts talking in his sleep, and I can have conversations and stuff with him. He says the most hilarious stuff when he's asleep! Then he eventually wakes up, and gets grumpy saying, "Who are you talking to? I'm trying to sleep!"

Oh, it's a hoot.

9/24/2005 06:45:00 PM  
Anonymous Melanie said...

I used to be really close to a friend's parents, and one time I had a dream that the prophet told Bob he needed to get a second wife, so it was like, real people I know being polygamous. It was so weird because it felt completely natural. And strangely, I've never had a problem with polygamy ever since, because they accepted it so righteously.

9/25/2005 01:17:00 AM  
Anonymous claire said...

I used to have the gum dream and the teeth falling out dream a lot as well, for me it was related to jaw clenching/tooth grinding/tmj type stress. I still have them occasionally, especially the tooth one, and I know I'm clenching my jaw again.

I'm 8+ months pregnant and have had some terrible dreams of being really really angry at my kids. That is so unpleasant to wake up to.

9/25/2005 09:10:00 PM  
Anonymous Sue M said...

I used to have the teeth falling out dream a lot - it's a horrible one. Someone told me that when you dream it, it means you are feeling like you have no control over the things that are happening in your life. Have no idea if that's true, but it made sense at the time.

I occasionally have dreams that my DH died and I am speaking at his funeral - I always wake up crying and upset after those dreams. Not sure why I dream about it - it is one of my greatest fears, so I guess my subconscious just likes to work through it now and then. DH gets awfully spoiled after I have one, because I'm always extra loving and appreciative of everything he does.

9/26/2005 10:22:00 AM  
Blogger Ana said...

Sometimes I have a dream "realization" that DH and I never actually got married and we are going to be in BIG TROUBLE for everything we've been doing over the last 12 years. Hahaha ...

When we were ttc I always dreamed about babies in threes, except they were not real babies. I had triplet lobsters and triplet plastic kewpie dolls, but no babies. When I did finally have triplet babies they were all of different races. Weird but prophetic for me (adoptive mom of two boys so far, one black and one biracial).

My scariest dream lately was about being in my minivan and being unable to control it. Every time I hit the brake, the car would start going in reverse. I had no idea where I was and I couldn't stop.

Terribly symbolic that it was the minivan, don't you think?

9/26/2005 01:24:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm going to post this anonymously, because I don't want anyone thinking I'm full of crap, which is what I would think if it didn't happen to me.

I've had two detailed dreams about things that ended up happening. They weren't significant to me personally, just strange. One dream was about this big old white house that was moved with a trailer into a big field. I told my mom about it, describing the house and its decor (including details about the paint in the master bedroom -- a really lovely pale blue room with french doors). A few weeks later one of her decorating magazines came in the mail and it had an article with lots of pictures of this old white house some people bought and moved with a trailer into a more scenic location. It had a very pretty master suite, light blue, with lots of windows and french doors. Funny coincidence, completely meaningless. My other dream had to do with my brother getting quickly married and divorced to a girl he'd just met (in waking hours) and casually mentioned in passing. It also happened, but I didn't tell anyone about it.

I've never been sure what to make of weird stuff like that. I don't think it was revelation of any kind -- it's not like decorating magazines or other people's marriages are what God would choose to reveal to me. Most dreams that feel more like revelation never end up happening (I've never once had a pregnant dream in which the gender of the baby was correct). But those two dreams were eerily accurate and still make me scratch my head.

9/26/2005 05:31:00 PM  
Anonymous Nichole said...

I had a very real dream once that my clothes were up on the wall and my jeans were talking to me.

I also have the spouce cheating dreams. I always try to punch him in that annoying way where your body feels like it's under water and you can't ever make contact. Someday the rotten cheater in my dream's gonna get it.

9/28/2005 12:51:00 AM  
Anonymous Heather H said...

Oh WOW, so I am not alone! I too have:
1. Dreams about insignifigant things that actually happen.

2. Teeth falling out! Oh I HATE those dreams. One falls out and then another and another and I can't control it and I have blood gushing out of my mouth!

3. Pregnancy dreams- I once dreamed that Wal Mart was setting up their Christmas display's and they had a TON of chocolate and they asked me to taste test it for them. I dreamed I was wlaking down the isles of Wal Mart tasting all sorts of yummy chocolates!

10/06/2005 11:48:00 PM  
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